The Wedding Registry

There's no need to be PC about this, you're going to get a butt-load of gifts. And to make getting what you want a whole lot easier, many stores have created something called registries. Basically, you go into the store, select the items you want, and people can then see the things you chose (and buy them!)

Wow!

Sounds really simple right? Well, almost.

Prepare yourself for Bed, Bath and Beyond. Prepare yourself for oven mitts and place mats and vegetable peelers. Prepare for linens and shower heads and lamps. PREPARE YOURSELF FOR CHINA PATTERNS.

You will survive, but you have to be mentally prepared. Understand that many girls have planned their future home down to the pattern on the paper napkins. They have been dreaming about this, and they take it very seriously. Worst of all, they want you to care as well.

Now is when you are walking on thin ice: you have to care, but you can't disagree too much. The best strategy I've found is three pronged:

1. Pick one item to stand your ground on. Make sure it's something of some value, but also one that is more out of sight. For example, demand a specific napkin ring, sandwich maker, or bath towel.

2. For certain items, select a few that you like and then put the ball in her court. Select the three blankets, bookshelves, or flatware that you like ask her which one she likes.

3. When she asks you what you think about something, don't just give her a "it's nice." Look at the item, analyze it, and come up with a good answer. Isolate a specific detail, design or functionality that makes it appealing.

It will be a long process. A very long process that may take a number of visits. But if you stick to these simple tips, and show (pretend) that you care, you will make it out alright.